My Baby is having a Baby!
So, I can now spill the beans…..
Clayton and Amanda are expecting their first baby – my first grandchild in August 2026. Most of you know that I have never made any comments about my kids and their life choices because it is their life! I am thrilled – of course – but just as I hated the questions, the pressures, the comments and pushiness of others with the choices that Jim and I made – I vowed I would never do that to my kids.
Shortly after Clayton married Amanda, I wrote this brief letter because everyone put so much emphasis on becoming a grandparent. Even if it never happened, it would be okay; the fact that it is happening is wonderful!
I will admit that I did utter the “mother’s curse” about both of my kids, but not in the negative sense that comes when one’s kids become difficult. The mother’s curse is something like, “I hope you have a kid just like you!” It is usually uttered under one’s breath after a difficult row, or whispered in the dark when a mom is at her wit’s end. While I did experience several of those difficult exchanges while raising my kids, I honestly never had the “curse” run across my mind or come out of my mouth. I guess it was more of a mother’s blessing. I can remember saying more than once to Emily that I hoped she would have a child of her own as smart and creative as she was. I wished for her to know the joy of raising someone who could laugh and sing and love as she did. She grew into a woman I admire – An independent, happy, industrious, funny, bright beauty who is determined and loves God.
I also remember repeating to Clayton how amazing it would be if one day he would have a son who was as cuddly and thoughtful as he was. When he showed such intelligence and musicality at an early age, I felt as overwhelmed about being his mom as I had with Emily and her giftedness. He grew into a man who is so much like his father – godly and smart, full of integrity and gentle, quiet strength of character. Both of my kids deserve kids just like the ones they were for me. Both of my kids are my heroes. Both of my kids are stellar human beings. Both have persevered through half of their lives without their dad, but yet they both have so many of his qualities. Both of my kids love well and love God. I love them both so much. I do not think there is a “grandmother’s blessing or curse”, but I will continue to watch the planted seeds grow and I will continue to nourish them as they nourish their own seedlings!
Dear Sweet Grandbaby…
I am unsure if or when you will make an appearance. I am unsure if your momma will be Emily or Amanda, but my heart is already overflowing with love for you. Someday, I will hopefully hold you, count your fingers and toes and smell your sweet breath. Please know that you are already loved and a miracle. My job has been to raise your parent (Emily or Clayton) to be a responsible and godly adult. This is part of the legacy I leave to you. Hopefully I have helped them as best I can, with the help of your grandfather to love and raise you well. Please know that my new goal as your Mimzy will be to be your safe space, spoiling you with stories, hugs and lots of joyful laughter as you grow into the person our good God created you to be.
Maybe one day you will have siblings or cousins. I am praying you will always be friends. I am hoping to be there for all your firsts, your big moments and many times of just being with you! We are so privileged to have you in our family. The kind of wonder that life brings and the stories we share are a wonder.
I am looking forward to seeing the world anew through your eyes! Life is a wonderful adventure. May God bless you and use you to bless the world.
With love, hope and prayer,
Your biggest fan – Mimzy … Mee-um ….