My Arsenal
For years I have chosen to weaponize certain things that should not be considered weapons. Things like my gender, my age, my marital status are not liabilities, only realities that can be seen as gifts and tools or weapons and chips on a shoulder. Life is full of choices and rather than weaponize things I…
It depends – the means to the ends
I am a person who loves her independence. I value the traits of standing on my own two feet, my own merits and my individuality. It is a sense of freedom and self-reliance that feeds me. But God made me for something more. This is what the Lord says: Cursed is the one who trusts…
Family Friday #9 The Move
By now you may have noticed a theme! I have multiple posts talking about moving and home. I don’t know why this one feels more difficult than normal but perhaps it is the way it went down and all of the nonsense experienced during this last 2 months. Moving is not my favorite. I know…
Family Friday #8 – The gumball machine
Most everything about Jim was intentional. He was a master at making a lesson or a joke out of almost everything. he learned magic tricks and perfected them so that he could us them to illustrate truths in class and in ministry. He also made a game out of even the most mundane things like…
Family Friday #7 – Our First Christmas
Our first Christmas together was 1979 when Jim stayed with us and asked my dad if he could marry me. That is another story documented somewhere else in this blog. But, Christmas 1980 was our first as husband and wife. There are many things I remember about that specific Christmas but also about our intentionality…
Family Friday #6 Friends along the way
We asked several people to be in our wedding and most said yes although some said no for a variety of reasons. Some of the people who stood up for us in our wedding party are not part of my (our) life anymore and some are. Of course we never would have imagined how those…
Family Friday #5 There’s no place like home!
When Jim and I got married we first lived in a quonset hut in Bellflower. Our church had bought some property that was dubbed the promised land and we were to move into a small house on that property once the escrow closed. So we lived in the place Jim had lived in prior to…
Family Friday #4 Uncoupling
A number of years ago Gweneth Paltrow and Chris Martin uncoupled. Maybe it was a fancy new term for divorce and maybe it was something more. But they decided to stop being a couple still partnering in their role as parents. I need to uncouple with my place of residence and some of the items…
Newton’s Law of Motion is in Motion
I don’t know why I have such a difficult time processing this, but it is what it is. I have known that I would have to move soon but my tendency is to ignore such things and go about the regular routines and busy-ness of the day. I have not wanted to live in Downey…
Family Friday #3 Boyfriend and Girlfriend
Not everyone was happy we were dating. Some of our good band friends, Steve, who I had gone out with and Debbie, who Jim had gone out with, were not thrilled to hear we had gone on a date. In all fairness, it was a blind date that jim had set up and I happened…