My best friend has said goodbye to both of her parents. Â They are part of the great cloud of witnesses. Â They have shaped my life as well as their 5Â children, 15 grandchildren, 25Â great grandkids and 2Â great-great grandkids. Â I cannot remember many childhood memories without this family. Â They went to my church, gave me my first job, taught me to like chili rellenos, prayed and played with me. Â For better or worse, I am who I am because of Jay and Pat.