Category: grief

Family Friday #2 More at the Start

I went to Biola in 1977 after I graduated from Edison High School. It was not my first choice AT ALL! A bit full of myself because of my high academic record and standing in the class I really wanted to go to UCLA and study languages. Biola didn’t have a Spanish or linguistics major…

By Mirm January 12, 2024 0

Happy Birthday Jim #68

Jim, Your high school reunion was this year. I was asked if I would like to attend in your honor. which says a great deal about how valued you were that they still miss you and wish you were around to celebrate with them. (I didn’t go because I was in RI when it happened).…

By Mirm November 8, 2023 2

A Bakers Dozen.

13 years ago Jim went to heaven where time is different than here – there is no morning and evening. There is no night. There is only joy and light and Jesus! But on this side of the veil there are days which turn into weeks, months and years. There is waiting and remembering and…

By Mirm November 5, 2023 1

Miracles

Yesterday at our weekly staff meeting one of the shepherds asked us to list miracles we have witnessed and the room was silent. Really?! A room full of full time ministers and christian workers who could not share a miracle! (myself included). I am sure that some of the lack of response was due to…

By Mirm March 16, 2023 0

Grief is meant to be shared.

Really? It feels so lonesome and isolated and in many ways it is. It is a dark place that I don’t want to walk and even less do I want to drag anyone else there. And yet…. … I long for people to hear my stories, whether they are loss or gain. I need people…

By Mirm January 27, 2023 0

What my dad would want you to know

Yesterday we celebrated my dad’s life – These are my words: Thank you for coming- we are grateful for the part you have played in the life of our family and for the honor you show by helping us today in honoring the life of Rex. Some of you knew Rex better than others. Some…

By Mirm January 22, 2023 1

Jim at 67.

We celebrated Jim this weekend. Emily made an apple pie. We went out to dinner and played games. Today is Jim’s birthday. I wonder what life would be like if he was still here. I wish He was. The longer I live without him and the more of his birthdays I celebrate without him the…

By Mirm November 8, 2022 3

November 5th

This is a day seared into my memory forever. It is that mix of complete devastation and holy moments. It was a blend of wanting complete privacy and needing to allow everyone else to say their goodbyes. It is the worst day of my life and the hardest one I have ever known. It is…

By Mirm November 5, 2022 4