Category: grief

Forty One

Dear Jim, Today marks the day we said, “I do”. Forty-One.  It was a long time ago, …but not really. I have remembered that day for 11 years without you,… but not really. You continue to find me in my dreams. You continue to show up in my daily speech. You smile at me from…

By Mirm August 23, 2021 1

Waves of Grace

Jim. Today I miss you. I could write this every day since you left earth. But today it hurts. Some days are like that – when the reality that half of me is still missing and the phantom pain is more noticeable than before. I am not sure why it is today – it isn’t…

By Mirm June 27, 2021 0

To Die Knowing

Oddly enough one of our pastors wants to “die knowing”; in other words, he wants to be fully awake and conscious that he is dying. I have to think that is an interesting thing to think about. Who thinks of stuff like that? Perhaps it is a better option than not planning for death at…

By Mirm June 17, 2021 0

10 years ago (3,653 days)

It was early in the morning and I had gotten up off the sofa next to the hospital bed to get ready for work. Steve Shepherd was coming over to be with Jim and the kids were getting ready for school. Jim’s breathing was labored, waking me up several times that night. At the time,…

By Mirm November 5, 2020 2

KAW – A Grateful Heart

My mom has 2 sisters – one older and one younger. Yesterday (9/9/20) Katherine, the younger one, passed away in Rhode Island at the age of 81. She was a mom to my 3 beautiful cousins, a grandmother to John and Eva, a friend, an army nurse, a cancer survivor, a therapist, a shop owner,…

By Mirm September 10, 2020 4

Words by Wil Triggs

I’ve been asked to give a testimony to our men’s Bible study. We’ve been doing Wayne Grudem’s systematic theology, a chapter or two at a time, and then they ask someone from the group to give a testimony. This week they asked me and the chapter is death and the intermediate state. It’s Wednesday night.…

By Mirm April 23, 2020 0

Easier?!

Sometimes I am asked by others on the grief journey if it ever gets easier. I am not sure, even after 9 years, how to answer that question. I usually respond my rote response; “It never gets harder.” I guess that is because I am not sure if “easier” will ever happen and I am…

By Mirm November 5, 2019 0

39 Years

For the past 9 years I have tried to have some creative angle on how to celebrate our wedding anniversary without Jim. It might seem a weird thing to honor and yet remembering Jim is what I do anyway. Marriage is a big deal and I am grateful for the one I had. So I…

By Mirm August 23, 2019 0