Category: grief

Using the W word

I am thinking about the day we celebrated Jim in a memorial service on this date in 2010. We had music, balloons, laffy taffy, people from every part of his life and more. It was a “good” day. He was worth celebrating and remembering. I hate the term widow. I don’t know why, but I…

By Mirm November 22, 2021 0

I hear you. I see you.

I have a friend who has had a very hard season and finds herself in the midst of grief and the sad loneliness that comes along for the journey. I have been there, but at the same time I haven’t. Grief is so solitary and unique. The loneliness of grief is so different than regular…

By Mirm November 21, 2021 0

Jim’s Birthday

Not a day goes by that I don’t think about Jim; he is tattooed onto my soul with indelible ink. I remember things about him that I admired, his wisdom and thoughtfulness, his quick wit, the soft kiss at the start and end of each day. He never left the house without a magic trick…

By Mirm November 8, 2021 3

Loss

Eleven years ago today, my husband of 30 years, my best friend, the father of my children and a very creative minister left this life for a better one. Over the years he has continued to impact lives for the better by the memories shared of him and I continue to count it a privilege…

By Mirm November 5, 2021 4

Forty One

Dear Jim, Today marks the day we said, “I do”. Forty-One.  It was a long time ago, …but not really. I have remembered that day for 11 years without you,… but not really. You continue to find me in my dreams. You continue to show up in my daily speech. You smile at me from…

By Mirm August 23, 2021 1

Waves of Grace

Jim. Today I miss you. I could write this every day since you left earth. But today it hurts. Some days are like that – when the reality that half of me is still missing and the phantom pain is more noticeable than before. I am not sure why it is today – it isn’t…

By Mirm June 27, 2021 0

To Die Knowing

Oddly enough one of our pastors wants to “die knowing”; in other words, he wants to be fully awake and conscious that he is dying. I have to think that is an interesting thing to think about. Who thinks of stuff like that? Perhaps it is a better option than not planning for death at…

By Mirm June 17, 2021 0

10 years ago (3,653 days)

It was early in the morning and I had gotten up off the sofa next to the hospital bed to get ready for work. Steve Shepherd was coming over to be with Jim and the kids were getting ready for school. Jim’s breathing was labored, waking me up several times that night. At the time,…

By Mirm November 5, 2020 2

KAW – A Grateful Heart

My mom has 2 sisters – one older and one younger. Yesterday (9/9/20) Katherine, the younger one, passed away in Rhode Island at the age of 81. She was a mom to my 3 beautiful cousins, a grandmother to John and Eva, a friend, an army nurse, a cancer survivor, a therapist, a shop owner,…

By Mirm September 10, 2020 4