Baking a Wedding Cake
A wedding metaphor for Cameron and Emma K
I think of many creative analogies for marriage, but for you I am going with baking! Baking is a common metaphor for describing a marriage with making sure you add the right ingredients and follow the recipe, yet I would add a twist. You are not only the ones who mix up the batter, you ARE the batter and God is the cook! When you go with His ingredients and plan then the cake will be amazing!
You know and have been “gathering” the best ingredients. You both have invested on your lives as followers of Christ and invested in becoming the best for the other long before you even knew each other! You know how to “bake a cake” because you have seen the marriages of godly parents and mentors around you. You know what goes into a cake; it includes the predictable list of things that you were reminded of as you sought counsel before June 7th: fun, friends, faith, finances, laughter, forgiveness, fighting fair, family, etc. You have read the recipe and you know what it involves, the time it takes, the temperature and the cooking process. You are not baking blind.
The journey of marriage is an organic process that will take time mixing and blending AND heat! No one else will do the work with or for you but the Master Baker – GOD! Let Him be your binding agent! As you blend the right ingredients and use best mixing techniques, don’t forget that, while you are following an age-old recipe, you will both bring a unique flavor and texture to your own creation! Make your cake fun and let God blend it into a heavenly delight that reflects the communion of the Trinity!
As you bake the cake the batter will go through a process that develops it into its intended form. It is a process that proves, stabilizes and tempers the blended ingredients, creating a special, wonderful and unique blend of your godly character and relationship. Adding the icing is like adding your personal stamp on it all. The couple who ices the cake together, stays together!?
God provides you with both the cake making and cake decorating equipment you will need. He planned this perfect fusion long ago! As you work with Him, your Master Baker, your marriage will be the best “cake” possible! May your marriage bring to it all the good ingredients, stirred together with love and laughter. Serve each other with kindness, caring tenderness and patience. Serve as Jesus served you. When all is said and done, you and everyone else will look at the finished product with awe. They will taste and see that the Lord is good. Your marriage will be a beautiful reflection of the one who designed it and baked it! It will be perfect for you and your family. By the way, you can have your cake and eat it too!
As you begin your adventure together, never lose sight of these things EVER:
- Be grateful every day. It turns what you have into enough.
- Don’t grow “old”. Keep your minds and hearts active and open to new ideas.
- Cultivate Friendship…with each other and others. Friends are the greatest wealth and treasure in this life.
- Laugh often. It is the best way to reflect the joy of the Lord!
- Discourage debt.
- Always kiss each other good morning, goodbye and goodnight.
- Apologize first and minister reconciliation.
- Pray without ceasing.
I could say more but know that I love you and I am praying that God will use you in powerful and creative ways for His glory and Kingdom.
With joyful Hope, Miriam Mohler Ps. 34:3